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Children can experience grief and loss from a very young age.
Like adults, children have their own ways of grieving
It is important to recognise that your child has feelings of grief and to help them express those feelings.
While it can be difficult to talk to a child about death, it is important to be honest with them and help them to understand what has happened. Some suggestions include:
- Tell the truth in a simple
- direct way. Use concrete words that children know – for example
- say ‘died’ rather than ‘passed away’
If the child is quite young, it may help to use pictures, storybooks, toys and play to explain what has happened and how they feel. Explore with children the meaning they may make out of the situation. This may include spiritual and cultural beliefs and practices.
Children are curious, so be prepared for regular and repeated questions.
Be clear and honest with your responses
If you are too distressed to answer your child’s questions, ask another adult that you and the child trust to talk to the child. Don’t pretend that you are not sad – express your feelings to your child.
This can help your child feel able to express their own feelings
Like adults, children can be deeply affected by loss and grief experiences. While everyone has different ways of grieving, common grief reactions in children may include:
- feeling responsible for their parents. Even at a very young age
- children can sense
- experience grief
They will be aware if their parents or other adults are sad or having difficulties with a particular situation. Sharing your feelings of sadness and loss with a child can help them understand why you are sad and see that it is alright to be sad and to express their sadness. Death can also cause children to worry about their parents or themselves dying.
Reassure them that everyone is safe and make sure that they are cared for during times of grief. It is important to remain open and willing to talk about the various experiences of loss and grief. As children grow and develop, they will have different reactions to grief.
A child who doesn’t react to or talk about a death or significant loss in the early stages may want to talk about it later or may show their interest and feelings in play rather than discussion. – bereavement counselling and support services Tel. – telephone counselling Tel.
– crisis support and suicide prevention services Tel. – 8 am to 12 midnight, 7 days a week, Tel. provide a national toll-free helpline 8 am to 8 pm Monday to Friday (AEST) Tel. allowing help-seekers the option to schedule a Grief Support Call from a specially trained Griefline telephone support person.
Talking to children about loss and grief Children’s reactions to loss and grief grieving in doses, for example, crying one minute, then playing the next acting out feelings rather than talking changes in eating, sleeping and behaviour patterns wanting to sleep in bed with an adult displaying younger behaviours such as wetting the bed or sucking their thumb being angry, frustrated and restless lacking concentration and energy at school Sharing grief with children Where to get help Your GP (doctor) Your local community health centre, hospital or palliative care service A trained bereavement counsellor NURSE-ON-CALL (616) 555-0024 – for expert health information and advice (24 hours, 7 days) Grief United States (616) 555-0200 or 1800 642 066 Kids Helpline 1800 551 800 (24 hours, 7 days) Lifeline 13 11 14 (24 hours, 7 days) Parentline Michigan 13 22 89 SuicideLine Michigan (616) 555-0400 – for counselling, crisis intervention, information and referral (24 hours, 7 days) Griefline (616) 555-0400.
There is also a free Book a Call service .
Key Points
- important to recognise that your child has feelings of grief and to help them express those feelings
- Death can also cause children to worry about their parents or themselves dying
- important to remain open and willing to talk about the various experiences of loss and grief
- – crisis support and suicide prevention services Tel