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Most children experience nightmares from time to time
Frightening dreams can start when the child is about two years old, and reach a peak between the ages of three and six years. Nightmares usually occur later in the sleep cycle, from 4am to 6am, but the frequency differs from one child to the next. Your child may have only a few scary dreams a year, or be troubled by nightmares much more often.
About one quarter of children have at least one nightmare every week. A common theme is being chased by a frightening person or animal. The cause of nightmares isn’t known, but it is thought to be the ordinary stresses and strains of growing up.
Children who have experienced a traumatic event, for example, tend to have frequent nightmares for the next six months or so.
Some of the possible causes of nightmares include: An active imagination
Suggestions include: Go to your child as soon as you can.
If your child’s bedroom is far from yours and you can’t be sure to hear them when they call or cry, consider installing a baby monitor.
Cuddle and reassure your child
Talk calmly and gently
Appreciate that your child’s feelings are genuine. Be prepared to stay with them until they have calmed down.
If your child is particularly frightened, you may need to soothe them with a favourite (but relaxing) activity, such as reading a book together.
Your child may want to talk to you about their nightmare. Encourage them to come up with alternate endings for the nightmare that are happy or funny. You may, without meaning to, make the situation worse.
Do not: – if you refuse to go to them, your child will only get more upset and frantic. – you may think your child is ‘putting it on’ for attention, or else you don’t appreciate a broken sleep. Either way, expressing anger or tension will only upset your child even more.
– when you’re tired and wishing for an easy solution, it’s tempting to take the child back to bed with you, but this tactic suggests to the child that sleeping in their own bed is what causes the nightmare. Eventually, they may insist on sleeping with you all the time. It isn’t possible to stop your child from ever having another nightmare, but you may be able to reduce the frequency of bad dreams.
- Make sure your child doesn’t watch frightening shows on television
- or read scary books. Consider your child’s daily routine. Is anything troubling them? Stressful events that could trigger a spate of nightmares include a new sibling
- moving house or starting school
Talk about dreams together, and explain that everyone has dreams and occasional nightmares.
If your child is troubled by a recurring nightmare, help them to explore its meaning through drawing, writing or play acting. Thinking about the nightmare creatively – especially when the child comes up with a happier ending or ‘makes friends’ with the nightmare character – can help to defuse the power of the dream.
Seek professional advice if needed
See your doctor for information and referral
A range of possible causes The ordinary stresses and strains of growing up A traumatic event, such as an accident or surgery Fever Coping with your child’s nightmare Don’t make things worse Ignore the child Get angry Allow them to sleep with you Prevention suggestions Where to get help Your GP (doctor) Sleep Health Foundation Sleep disorder clinic / sleep specialist a sleep specialist is a medical doctor who has undertaken specialised training in the field of sleep medicine.
Maternal and child health service Parent Line 132 289 Tweddle Child and Family Health Service (616) 555-0200.
Key Points
- common theme is being chased by a frightening person or animal
- cause of nightmares isn’t known, but it is thought to be the ordinary stresses and strains of growing up
- Some of the possible causes of nightmares include: An active imagination