Talking through problems

It can be hard to talk to people about how you feel. You may be worried that they won’t take your feelings seriously. You may also be worried about what will happen after you tell them your problems.

If you think you don’t know anyone who will listen, you can call a confidential counselling service.

) are telephone counselling services that are available 24 hours a day. Talking to someone you trust about something upsetting may help you to: Sort through the problem.

See the situation more clearly

Look at the problem in a new or different way. Release built-up tension – this can help you to gain new insight into the situation that is causing the problem. Find out that you are not alone – you may find that many other people share your feelings.

Identify options or solutions you hadn’t thought of before

If you don’t talk about your problems, you may find your pent-up tensions or feelings burst out in a way that is embarrassing or inappropriate. You might also find that things may get worse if you don’t try to get on top of them straight away.

An important first step is deciding who you want to talk to. You need to feel that you can trust the person you are talking to. who specialise in talking to young people or families. They can provide counselling in specialty areas, including: abuse (including physical, sexual or emotional abuse).

It is important to find ways to express your feelings.

This can help you to release built-up tensions and make better decisions

There are a number of ways you can express how you feel, including: for yourself, even if it is just 10 minutes.

– such as reading or exercising. – this can be a useful way to explore your feelings. Some people keep diaries or journals, others just write down whatever comes into their head. You may want to write a story about whatever is bothering you. from situations that might stress you out or make you angry. – consciously change negative thought patterns to help you look at things in a more positive light. – being mindful is one way to focus your thoughts and consider the big picture.

Is your stressful situation worth getting stressed about? Will it matter in the long run? – it will give you plenty of chances to get rid of pent up energy. – draw, paint or make a collage. – singing, playing or listening to music (or just shouting) can all help.

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Kids Helpline 1800 551 800 ) and Lifeline 13 11 14 Talk to someone you trust Don’t keep your problems to yourself Finding the right person to talk to There are counsellors mental health (including eating disorders ) alcohol drugs pregnancy family issues relationships (including issues such as peer pressure , bullying and cyberbullying ) sex and sexuality study and careers Other ways to deal with your feelings Set aside some time Do things that make you feel good Write about how you feel Walk away Self-talk Meditation Play sport or do some physical activity Be creative Use music Dance Where to get help Your GP (doctor) Counsellor (for example, at your school or work) Social worker (at your school or local community health centre) Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800 Lifeline 13 11 14 ReachOut forums Beyond Blue 1300 22 4636 – or chat online (1 pm to 12 am, 7 days).